Poor confidence and self esteem can lead to bigger issues in a child’s teen and adult years, such as anxiety and depression. Avoid having a self-conscious child by practicing these steps in raising your child’s confidence.
Perfect is Impossible
Do not try to improve their project or task. It cuts their confidence and prevents them from growing on their own. There is no such thing as perfect so let them learn at their own pace and in their own way. And remember, it’s okay for them to fail; and they should know that.
Let Them Do the Thing
As a parent, you are supposed to support your children. By doing everything for them they are robbed of the opportunity to become competent and learn life skills. You don’t have to abandon them but as early as they show interest, do tasks with them and not for them. Let them figure things out on their own without your constant advice. You may need to manage your own anxiety and frustrations to complete this but it’ll improve their self-awareness and confidence.
Encouragement is positive and motivating for everyone, not just children. Sharing mantras with them, such as “keep moving forward” or “If you don’t succeed, try again” will help fight the negative criticisms that we all feel from time to time.
Empathize, Don’t Criticize
Criticism and evaluations are easy to give, especially when your intentions are good. Instead, try to empathize with what they feel. Generic praises like “Good Job” become easier to ignore and discount, so be descriptive with your praise, “You didn’t give up, and I’m so proud of you”.