Ages 3+

To Share or Not to Share, That is the Question; Teach Your Children to Share

March 31, 2016

Teach your children about sharing

It’s one of the big parenting conundrums as of late: To share or not to share. Or, more accurately, teaching young children about sharing without forcing them to acquiesce to others’ demands (it’s a fine line, the more you think about it!). Well, Captain McFinn and Friends strongly encourages sharing with others because sharing makes everything more fun!

Teaching young children about sharing boils down to these three basic things…

1. Wait your turn.

Contrary to popular belief, automatically handing over something you have to someone else because the other person is demanding it isn’t really sharing — and kids need to know that. Sharing is about having patience and being kind. It’s about having patience and knowing that when little Tommy is done playing with his truck that he’ll hand it over. No need to demand the truck or take it from another’s hands. If that happens, talk to your little one about waiting for his or her turn.

In fact, you can talk about it while playing Captain McFinn’s Swim & Play free app and showing your child what you mean — because there are videos and scenarios that depict exactly this kind of situation!

2. No hogging.

Conversely, sharing is also about teaching young children that if they are not playing with something, it’s kind to let another kid to enjoy it. This will come to no surprise to parents that this seemingly innocuous action can often cause a meltdown at the weekly playdate (and is often similar to what can happen when a broken and unusable toy part is found in the garbage by your child).

So, what to do? Focus on talking to your little one about letting others enjoy things, too, and being grateful. Kids learn by example, so be sure to model what you’d like them to do AND praise your kids when you witness a non-issue over someone playing with their toys! You can also spend time together playing Captain McFinn’s Swim & Play free app, and you and your youngster can discuss various ways to share while watching videos of Bella and other friends sharing!

The feelings can be similar to those happening when there’s a favorite toy involved, but this offers a perfect opportunity to talk to your little one. Now, if that toy is actually a favorite toy (or a lovey, etc.), all bets are off. So, it’s OK to….

3. Hide favorite toys.

Put yourself in your child’s shoes: Imagine you worked hard and finally got your dream car when your accident-prone friend asks to drive it. You probably fear that you won’t get your car back in the same shape if your friend takes your new wheels for a spin, and your child likely feels similarly with those favorite toys.

Enter the weekly playdate, and you’re hosting this time. If another child is grabbing for one of your child’s top toys and your child is having none of that, perhaps it’s OK to side with your offspring and not insist upon sharing. Instead, calmly talk to your child about putting away the non-share toys before any little friends come over next time.

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